MY STORY | The Circle of Joy

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MY STORY

A crusader of Joy and Sparkle, De-mystifier of life’s dilemmas – relentlessly exploring human nature - always vested in finding my own most authentic self, so that I can be a beacon of light for others. By nature, I am more of a giver, a server than a receiver. My default questions are always… What can I give or how can I serve this person to bring Joy and fulfilment in their lives?

But it wasn’t always like this.

I had a successful Design House (Minksse), high paced social life, extensive travel opportunities to exotic locations all over the world, kids studying in the top International schools and my friends would tell me I had it all, but secretly I thought “if only you knew”.

“There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds.”― Laurell K. Hamilton, Mistral’s Kiss

Every few years I kept losing a family member to death, my marriage was failing and the existing family members were on a rampage to strip me of the remnants of my dignity. I became a silent witness to my own overwhelming grief- despair – acute loneliness- insecurities – feeling of un-worthiness – playing the victim role in my head - Life felt cruel and unfair!

I was trying to make sense of the void within…the seeming randomness of life and the challenges that come along from most unexpected quarters. I kept playing the same story again and again in my mind: Why am I still alive (when other family members have left earth), who am I, what I am here for, what's my purpose, what will make me feel happy, what is my higher potentiality, and how do I live it?

It dis-empowered me from moving ahead in life, create, manifest Abundance in all aspects of life.

I am sure you all have felt similar emotions sometime or the other:

Sensing you ARE here in life for a higher purpose, how on earth do you go about finding it in this unpredictable world?
Trying to make sense of the seeming randomness of life and the challenges you face?
Feeling of a void within, that no number of external things, experiences or achievements will fill?
Wanting to experience consistent and solid faith, trust, peace and most important Joy in your life?

You can feel frustrated and demoralized and DEVOID OF JOY!

I WAS THERE AND HAVE FELT ALL THAT OVERWHELM and MORE.

I kept saying to myself: “I don’t know why this is all happening, but one thing I know for sure, something great, huge, amazing, something way bigger than me is going to come out of this, because I’m not going through all this stuff for nothing!”

I WAS DETERMINED TO BE UNSINKABLE IN THIS OVERWHELM AND GRIEF

Thus, started my deep reflective Journey to find meaning, depth, and purpose in this life.

In my gratitude to the universe, I always include the timely guidance and tutelage under some amazing Masters, Mentors, Months of Retreats in The Himalayas by the shores of River Ganga, relentless dives into certifications - Mindfulness, Emotional intelligence, Cutting the Ties that bind with Phyllis Krystal.

As the layers of conditioned beliefs started to peel away, I saw clearly the origins of my insecurities, fears, victim-hood roles, false beliefs of unworthiness, not Enoughness was deeply rooted in childhood and cemented in adolescence.

I started just Being! Allowing all the pauses needed for silent deep-dive investigations of the sub-conscious. I witnessed the erratic, turmoiled woman —one who had played the victim role every time destiny’s cruel blow hit — completely flip the script in her head, becoming once again a confident, Joyful, and self-assured human being.

TODAY I CELEBRATE LIFE

“When you realize nothing is lacking, the whole world belongs to you.” ~Lao Tzu

I AM AN UNSHAKABLE, UNSINKABLE OPTIMIST, TAKING RADICAL RESPONSIBILITY OF MY OWN LIFE! MY MANTRA? JUST GET “OVER IT AND ON WITH IT!

A decade later, with my innate intuition, compassion and profound realizations of life’s insurmountable challenges and limitations, I help women engage in better coping mechanisms and become damn good at leading a joyful life!

WHY JOY?

Joy is a eeny-meeny-teeny word – but a deep inner feeling, originates in the heart, touches our soul, embraces content.

Joy endures hardship and trials, connects to the soul with meaning and purpose and is a CONSCIOUS CHOICE to “Rejoice”. Choose joy. Practice joy. Live in joy. Practice it over and over again, till it becomes a state of “Being” to brings balance to mind, body, soul.

HOW CAN I HELP?

I have introduced a FOUR- WEEK Self Mastery program called: “JOYFULLNESS CODE”

It draws from cutting-edge well-tried tools imparted to me by Masters, the wisdom of the ages, lessons from popular culture, and my own life experiences.

This thought-provoking Journey of Personal Growth and Healing, addresses 6 big, default ROLES we take on unconsciously:

•PERFECTIONISM •CONTROL •VICTIMHOOD •PEOPLE PLEASER •BRILLIANCE- DUCKER •SHOULDING

Women fall into these roles because they don’t feel good enough. And when they don’t feel good enough, other associated syndromes that creep in are: Maintaining poor boundaries, running old stories in head, self-sabotage, blame games, lack of self-love and more. This in turn results in burn-outs at work and relationships, dis-empowers them from moving ahead in life and embracing their Full Potentials and brilliance.

“Your only obligation in any lifetime is to be true to yourself.” – Richard Bach

During our Journey together, you will learn to “Snap” out of these roles, “let-go” of un-needed storms, heal old wounds and Traumas, to start living in the “present” with Clarity, Courage, Confidence, Authenticity and “Joy”!!!

My mantra:
WHAT THE CATERPILLAR CALLS THE END …. THE REST OF THE REST OF THE WORLD CALLS A BUTTERFLY.
So dare to show up in your vulnerable authentic self anyway!

Minnku buttAR

the self coach

Minnku Buttar, is an Award-winning Transformational Facilitator, Energy Healer, Advanced Pranic Healer, Tibetan Bowls Sound Healer, Yoga Kriya Initiate, Phyllis Krystal’s” Cutting the Ties that Bind” and a Certified Mindfulness Coach.

She is also a Keynote speaker at various international forums and a Moderator for International Radio channels & Panel discussions. As a Columnist & Featured Editor, her articles have appeared in BIZCATALYST360.COM, Business Week (India), Silver Talkies magazine, Ritz, Fashion hub, and regularly in Newspapers, and is regularly invited as Guest of Honor in various Delegations.

She is Founder of her present company: The Circle of Joy. Before she ventured into Holistic healing arena, as a Fashion Influencer and Founder of her brand, ”Minksse”, she curated many events ( including top Fashion shows). She is also an artist and her art has found homes in Galleries and reputable Multi-National Companies.

Awards and Contributions:

Woman of Excellence, 2019, Women Economic Forum.

Leader of Excellence, 2020, Economic Digital Conference, Karnataka.

Contributor of the Decade: 2019, Confederation of Women Entrepreneurs.

State President: 2020, Karnataka Lifestyle & Fitness Improvement Council, WICCI (Women’s Indian Chamber of Commerce and Industry)

Lifetime Mentor, MENTORx.

Her love for Travel has taken her to the most exotic destinations in the world, enriching her with soulful stories and tolerant perspectives of others. She speaks Malay and Spanish as foreign languages along with English, Hindi and Punjabi.

Her two children live in Australia.

After living in 7 cities in India & 9 countries globally, she now lives in Bangalore, India.